The series is back! I'm gonna try to post one of these per week. This post is gonna cover breakup and how to tackle that, but if you guys don't want me to cover it in the next post as well, just comment so. If you guys have any topics you want covered or questions you want answered plz comment them below. My credibility for being the one to produce this series is that I've already been in a relationship(lasted 8 months), had my first kiss(and so many more), and been through the highs and lows so I can teach you guys how to optimise every moment of it.
How to End the Relationship. If you're on the giving end of the breakup, it's hard to end it sometimes. I'd advise you to meet up in public for the breakup, hear me out. If you do it in public, no one's really watching the breakup until one of you makes a scene by crying, yelling, or something else. This makes it easier for you, because they're not gonna blow up in your face in public, so they'll just accept it. If you breakup in private all of your feelings you both have will come out at each other and it's gonna go downhill quickly. You'll both being saying and doing things you'll regret later. Don't breakup over text, call, snap, etc(unless you're in a long distance relationship and that's really your only option). If you've taken the time, money, and energy to love someone for so long, then at least have the respect to talk to them about it in person. They're still a person with feelings and just remember it's worse for them than it is for you.
Aftermath. The aftermath can be crazy. It's normal to feel terrible, have feelings have your ex for a while, and not even want to make eye contact with them. It's like you love her and hate her at the same time. It's miserable. Here's the hard part that will bear fruit in due time: don't hate her. Hating her will make you more obsessive of her than you already were, in a bad way. Your mental health quality depletes, your moral becomes poor, and it just doesn't get you anywhere in life. Believe me, I know from experience. I want you guys to use your feelings after breakup as motivation. Make her regret dumping you or not doing enough in the relationship to the point where you had to dump her. In short, have her feel FOMO for you. In the time I've had without a gf, I've been working multiple jobs, extremely improved my physique, and made many friends. I'm happier, more rich, and more fit than ever before. True story, somewhat simplified, we both went to a pool party a while back(separate obviously, she was still my ex at the time) and she was checking me out. She'd be looking at my muscles, I'd look at her, and she'd immediately look away. You have no idea how victorious I felt lol. She's even texted me stuff like "hey, I remember you wanted to do at some point in your life and is happening like this weekend, just thought you should know." She still thinks about me, and thinks I'm hot, I'm him bro.
Reflection & Assumptions. Don't assume you did everything right and she did everything wrong. Nobody is perfect and no bridge is strong enough for one side to fall and the other side to stand and let the other side fall. Both sides of the bridge fall every time. The likelihood of things is that you both messed up one way or another, one level or another. You both owe each other apologies and even if you don't want to get back together, be a man and own the apology(text or in person, either way appreciated). I've taken hours just laying in bed at night(months ago, I'm over her now) just thinking on what went wrong and what caused those things to happen. Some were her fault and some were mine. It makes you more of a man to confront yourself and tell yourself the truth, not just what you want to hear yourself say, for better or worse.
Hope this helps you guys, plz like and flame! Take my advice or leave it, no need for negative comments below. If this gets 5 likes and flames I'll make another one, solidifying that the series is back and you guys want it back.